By Ashley Fortune, CollegeFindMe Intern
Goodbye High School, and Hello College! As an up and coming freshman, College is a whole different experience than the last four years endured with your childhood friends. Now, you’re living in a dorm, away from home, even if you are close, you’re finally receiving that long waited independence. Also, there’s one other thing that college has that your old high school doesn’t, and that’s a bunch of new people! Depending on who you are, this may be the most exciting or the most intimidating experience you’ve faced in your life. Don’t worry though! Whether you are an avid socialite or a quiet introvert, here are some social tips to help you start friendships with your new peers.
Look out for all the hot spots on campus every weekend. Start talking to people on your dorm floors. Talk to people in classrooms. Start a nice chat in the cafeteria. Don’t be afraid to small talk at sporting events. Even give a small “hello” in the corridors. Go out with groups to parties or alone in the library to help meet someone who will catch your eye. Even if you’re not the social butterfly, try stepping out of your bubble. Again, this isn’t high school anymore. C
Slow and Steady
Take your time with every new friendship. There’s literally no rush into making new friends. Take some time to engage yourself with other people. Get to know every person individually when you have the chance, in order to have an individualized friendship with each one. You don’t know everyone on campus like in high school, so don’t try to make them like your high school friends either. College is a new scene with new opportunities. Slow and steady always wins the race when it comes to making a new friend!
Remember, the people on campus won’t have the same personalities or mindsets as your old high school peers. Therefore, don’t be afraid to meet a whole range of new people! Everyone from the popular athlete to the shy bookworm could introduce you to so many perspectives and adventures. Be willing to be introduced by roommates, and don’t be shy to introduce yourself. With this being said, don’t change your expectations for these new people as well. Friends are a reflection of how you see yourself, and how you treat yourself. Overall, go into college with the same morals and values that you held for yourself since the beginning, and the right friends that you meet will respect them accordingly.
Stay True To Yourself
The best personality trait that you could bring into your next four years is to be you. People are drawn to genuineness, and it shows truly. If you feel like you’re becoming someone you’re not familiar with, move on and find a new crowd. Be honest and open with those you care about, love the perspective of yourself that you’ve made, surround yourself with great people and embrace yourself!
Never be afraid to say “No” to the things that you don’t want to do. Stay in your comfort zone. Be responsible and know your limits. College can truly be a fun experience, but it’s good to keep in mind a few tips to keep you and others safe over the years. Stray away from the crowds that are unsettling, and surround yourself with people who want the best for you always.
Final Thoughts: Have Fun!
College can be both a fun and an intimidating experience for everyone, which it’s why it’s important to go into every social experience with an open mind but a few tips alongside you. Whether you find yourself at a large urban university or a small rural scene, remember, have fun, be safe and be true to yourself!
Now, go out and happy socializing!